Jeff Herman is an aggressive and vehement lawyer who is an advocate to survivors of sexual abuse, rape, and sexual exploitation. Herman represents people of all ages from all walks of life. Throughout his career of twenty-five years, Herman has represented and been an advocate for over 1,000 women, men, and children.
While Jeff Herman will help all clients of all ages, he has special expertise in being an advocate for and representing children. Jeff has gone through specialized training in various forensic interviewing techniques. Using these techniques, especially with children, gives them the opportunity to disclose their experience but limits the amount of trauma, anxiety, and other negative feelings that could be experienced.
It seems like today sexual abuse, rape, or sexual exploitation are on the rise. It is nearly impossible to watch or read the news without sexual abuse, of one kind or another, being included in the highlights. Luckily, Jeff Herman has offered parents advice about how to talk about this sensitive topic with their children and warning signs parents should be aware of.
First, and perhaps the most important, is that parents need to open up lines of communication and ensure that the dialogue is age appropriate. Children need to have a clear understanding about their bodies, what their body parts are called, and what areas are 100% off limits. Second, children need to know that if somebody is making them uncomfortable they can tell them to stop, they can and should say no. Third, parents need to give their children examples so that they understand that sexual predators can be anyone, even people who are supposed to be ‘good.’ Fourth, open lines of communication and the conversation about sexual abuse needs to continually be talked about.
There are a number of signs that abuse has taken place that parents need to be aware of. While this list isn’t a guarantee that a child has been a victim of sexual abuse, they are warnings that should concern a parent. First, a sudden and sometimes drastic change in behavior, especially when that behavior is sexual in nature. Second, if a child regresses back to a former behavior they have already outgrown. Third, if a child starts feeling depressed, anxious, or angry, and one of the bigger concerns should be a child who starts using self-harm, which is both a coping mechanism and a cry for help.
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